How to Be a Durable Human in the Digital Age: An interview with author and NoVA mom Jenifer Joy Madden + giveaway

Jenifer Joy Madden is a Vienna mom of three whose new book, How To Be a Durable Humanis the latest in a series of accomplishments that include writing for the Huffington Post and many other publications, being a Listen to Your Mother participant and book contributor, and successfully advocating for a network of hiking/biking trails in Tysons/Vienna. Her new book, which launches on May 18 at One More Page Books in Arlington, is a practical follow-up to her earlier The Durable Human Manifesto. The new book – subtitled “Revive and Thrive in the Digital Age Through the Power of Self-Design” – provides tools for grounded, intentional living that every mindful parent will appreciate.

I was happy to have the chance to connect with Jenifer at a recent meeting of NoVA Outside, an alliance of environmental educators for which Jenifer and I both volunteer. After I learned about her new book and got a chance to read a preview copy, I asked her for an interview. This interview contains affiliate links.

Jessica of Mindful Healthy Life: Can you first tell us how this new book differs from your earlier manifesto? Should readers check out the manifesto first?

Jenifer of Durable Human: How To Be a Durable Human: Revive and Thrive in the Digital Age Through the Power of Self-Design is the practical application of The Durable Human Manifesto: Practical Wisdom for Living and Parenting in the Digital World because it gives you specific strategies for being effective and “built to last” in body, mind, and spirit. You don’t need to read The Manifesto first, but it’s a good idea. It only takes a few minutes and the feel and images are inspiration for reading the next book and leading a mindful, healthy life!

Jessica: What was your goal in writing this book? What do you hope happens as a result of the book’s publication?

Jenifer: The goal of How To Be a Durable Human is to encourage each reader to cherish and take care of her or himself as an individual, unique human who cannot be duplicated (as are our smartphones which roll of the line by the millions). Each of us is a fascinating creature who is curious about the world in different ways. By being different from each other and generating new ideas our species can remain relevant in a world where machines can perform more and more of our functions. It is incumbent on us not to let anything interfere with the proper workings of our human-only assets, which include our muscles, our reasoning, and our emotions including compassion and ingenuity.JJ in the wild

I hope to influence individuals and designers to implement what I call “durable human design,” that is, design of things and situations that actively promote humans and what they do best. There are tons of examples in the book, which can be as simple as putting your iPad out of sight so your toddler will naturally play with blocks or an imaginary friend.

 

Jessica: Tell us a little about your own parenting journey. I know your kids are in high school and college or beyond. How much of the ideas in the book were you thinking about when they were little? How much did parenting influence your thoughts about “durability?”

Jenifer The concept for The Durable Human emerged from my experience as a parent. My first child was born in 1983. As a little girl, she explored constantly and had a broad sensory experience, both indoors and outdoors. It wasn’t because she was extra special (which she is!), but because there was no alternative.

Jenifer and her children, 1995

Jenifer and her children, 1995

My third child arrived ten years later. He started out as curious as she did, but as he grew up, the world changed. On 9/11 cellphones became ubiquitous. Video games and email had also arrived by then. He and I became absorbed by various sizes of screens. It took me a number of years to realize that there is an opportunity cost to our fascination with screen-based activities. He was missing out on the wonders of the outside, for instance, a place he had been so attracted to as a little boy.

I then began to realize that we need to become consciously aware of our Selves and our needs as human beings—to appreciate and use not only our muscles, our amazing senses, our emotions and all our assets as human animals, which can all be inadvertently dampened or dented by the way we use our tools of technology.

JJ beach on bike photo

 

Jessica: Let’s talk about what you think are the most important pieces of wisdom from your book for parents at different stages.

For parents with babies and toddlers:

Jenifer: I would say that parents of babies until even up to age 5 must realize what a sacred trust and responsibility they have to allow their children to explore the world with all their senses, not just those required to swipe fingers across a screen. Kids need to have unabated time to taste, feel, smell, hear and see as much as they can of the world in order to populate their brains most densely with neural connections. In the process, kids find out what they are good at and what they like. In a child’s unfettered exploration, he or she is free to discover the unique essence of his or her Self.

Kids really are wild (like the squirrels in the trees) until they plug into the digital world. Parents need to actively protect and promote a child’s wild time because it will never come again. That’s why there’s no reason to rush into devices, as “kid-friendly” as they are marketed to be. Little kids need to know their own operating systems before they’re introduced to others.

 

For parents with children ages 3-10 right now:

Jenifer To be very aware of how you are interacting with your child. Now is the time to look deeply into their eyes, hear everything they have to say, and to hug and encourage them as much as possible. You can see research in the book about how damaging it is for parents to be emotionally unavailable. They may not even realize how often they are checking their phones and missing the “mini-moments of childhood,” in the words of Harvard research psychologist Catherine Steiner-Adaire. She has seen how so many kids are “mad, sad, and lonely.” On the more sunny side, other research shows what power conversation and touch have on intellectual and emotional development.

 

For parents with tweens and teens right now?

Jenifer: Okay, so I’m going to get practical here. Sleep is very important, even at this age. Devices that go beep in the night interfere with sleep. That’s why devices should be charged out of earshot (and way out of reach). The habit of charging a phone away from the sleeping area ideally should start the first day a child has a device, but you can help instill the habit any time later. What we in the busy digital age must also realize is that the bedroom is a sanctuary and likely the only place a person can mentally digest the non-stop input of the day. Everyone needs a place to recuperate and try to make sense of what you experienced.

JJ and kids 2016

 

Jessica: What advice do you think is most important for adult people in the high-strung DC area to heed?

Jenifer: People in our area place a high value on productivity. I think one of the most amazing revelations in How To Be a Durable Human is that we can be more productive in the long run by stepping away from our work. I know that sounds counter-intuitive, but studies, especially by Cal State’s Larry Rosen, show that our brains become saturated when we’ve done one or two hours of solid work, especially on a screen. We stare at it but lose the ability to efficiently process information. Leaving the screen for just a minute or two—such as by stepping out into the sunshine—breaks the mental logjam. By taking these little breaks we can get more done over a day’s time.

Completed Beulah Road Trail

 

Jessica: If you could go back and give your earlier self one piece of advice from this book, what would it be? What is one thing that it took you a while to figure out?

Jenifer: That’s a great question (which is what people say when they’re stumped and need a little time to think about the answer). I wish I knew earlier about the concept of opportunity cost. I would chase my poor son from screen to screen but I never explained why I was doing it, which became an issue between us that still resonates. I may have driven him to be secretive about using technology, mainly out of guilt. Now I’m the guilty one!

 

Jessica: How can our readers follow you and where can they meet you? Tell us where to find you on social media and in person!

Jenifer: I’d love them to join my email list, which they can do by popping me a note at jj@durablehuman.com. But if they go to DurableHuman.com, they can get a free download of The Manifesto. That will automatically put them on my list. On Twitter, I’m @Durablehuman and they can also jump into the Durable Human community on Facebook.

I’d especially love to meet your readers in person, which we could do at the launch of How To Be a Durable Human on Wednesday, May 18. It’s going to be a fun party at the very cool One More Page Books in Falls Church, which is conveniently located near the East Falls Church Metro and right off the W&OD bike trail. I hope they come because there will be wine tasting, fresh herbs to smell, and a really awesome cake!

Launch w Location

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We appreciate the interview and Jenifer’s offerings for our readers:

  • free download of “7 Durable Tips card
  • and a set of her two books to one lucky winner! Enter the giveaway below.

If you don’t win and can’t make it to One More Page Books, order here through our Amazon affiliate links and support the work of this site.

Check out all of Jenifer’s available books here.

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Jessica Claire Haney is the founder, publisher and editor of Mindful Healthy Life. She is a writer and editor and the founder of the Arlington/Alexandria chapter of Holistic Moms Network. Her personal blog is Crunchy-Chewy Mama and her writer’s site is JessicaClaireHaney.com. See the Team Mindful Healthy Life page and Jessica’s Mindful Healthy Life Q&A for more on Jessica.

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